Alvin Ailey: Setting the Stage

Hey dreamers!

For those of you who have daughters who are interested in dance, Alvin Ailey is hosting a special event on February 22, 2018 at the Gem Theater. There are so many great things happening in our city and for our children, we just have to take advantage of them. Meet us at the Gem Theater @7pm as we explore our culture through dance + interactive slides. Little Girls Big Dreams is all about showing young ladies that they can BE anything that want to BE, with hard work + dedication. Ballet is no exception, so if this is a dream you would like to cultivate in your little one, this is the place for you. More information below.

FYI this is a FREE event but please go to the link below and register for the event (its best to do it from a computer.) I truly hope I see you there! It’ll be a great time. Also check out the video below, to get an idea of what you’re in for.

https://www.kcfaa.org/setting-the-stage/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUKLZRTHfhw#action=share

Ciao

Keish!

Mommy Moment: Why I Stopped Getting Gel Nails.

Hey Dreamers!

Keisha here. So if any of you know me personally you know that I love a good gel mani. I might possibly live for nice shiny polish with well manicured cuticles. I make sure I don’t go longer than two weeks without getting something done to my hands. It just makes me feel really good to have a cute color on my nails. I have no idea how to polish my own nails (not my right hand) and it never comes out looking as dope as when I get them professionally done.

Well dreamers, I quit going. Not because of time, not because of money, not because I should know how to maintain my own hands at the age of 33…nope. I stopped going because my daughter received a bunch of nail polish, nail polish remover, liquid latex, and cotton swabs, for Christmas. She loves doing nails. The kid watches Youtube videos about all things nails. I was completely fine letting her paint and then re paint her own nails while leaving me to my bi weekly visits to the nail shop, until one day she wanted to do my nails and couldn’t because…well gel. So the last time I went to the nail salon I did not get gel I got polish (which was done horribly btw) and now she can do my nails as often as she likes.

This is NOT what I prefer, but I know that it’s important to support her in any way that I can. She may not be the best at polishing my nails right now, she may not even be on this by the time next Christmas comes around, but guessing a timeline is not my job as a parent. My job as a parent is to be there for her, support her, even in things I’d prefer to do a different way. Its nuts but kids remember the smallest things, the smallest gestures of love, the smallest gestures of rejection. They remember, and they carry those seeds into their adulthood and then plant them, unknowingly, in their children.

I only want to leave gestures of love with my children, my grand children, and their children. When Riley has a child I want her to recall the memories of my selflessness…not when it comes to paying bills, or taking her out for food, or buying clothes, no, all those things are what we literally HAVE to do as parents. I want her to remember my selflessness with my time. How I put down my phone and listened to a story that made zero sense, but I listened intently anyway…or how I am not sure what the stuff  made in an Easy Bake Oven is even made of…but I ate it anyway. So, yea I stopped getting my beloved gel, but I can honestly say, its worth it…and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t praying that this is just a phase lol!

Alright Dreamers! Until next time.

 

Good Parenting from a Kids Perspective: The List

Good afternoon dreamers!

As some of you may have guessed by now, I have started an organization that benefits young ladies in the arena of creativity, self worth, self love, and self motivation. I want to provide positive role models for our girls, I truly believe they need it, that the world needs it. Well, for those of you who don’t know, I am a mother as well, I have a 9 year old daughter and a 5 year old son, BOTH the loves of my life. My team/best friends and I got together and did an activity with the kids. We had our kids (roughly about 10 kids between us all…I know crazy) write down, anonymously, things that they would like us to change, work on, or just do better at. We threw these tiny pieces of paper in a hat, let the kids go outside and play while we read each off and wrote them down. The list is below:

1.) Use phone less

2.) Love me more

3.) Stop cursing

4.) Stop assuming things

5.) Spend more time with me

6.) To have more alone time

7.) Be a better listener

8.) More social

9.) Help with chores

10.) No judging

11.) Stop ignoring people

12.) Stay off the phone at home

13.) Stop accusing

14.) Stop hollering

15.) Stop fussing

16.) Lighter punishment

I honestly believe that parents have a lot to do with what kind of adult a child grows up to be. We introduce them to the world, we place our values in them, sometimes values that were passed down from our parents, we place our fears, doubts, dreams, boundaries, all into these tiny little beings and we expect them to be perfect at life. Sometimes its great to take a moment to reflect on the type of parent you might be and what your life is showing them. I don’t know which of these suggestions my kids put into the hat, and I haven’t asked because I feel like ALL of this is something that I can work on. I want to be the type of mother that pays attention to her child, what she says, what she does, how she speaks, around her child. I want my children to know that they are important in this world, but that has to start with letting them know that they are important to my life.

Most parents would say “you don’t pay bills around here, how dare you give ME a list?!?!? I’m the reason why you’re living…and blah blah blah…” Or “Children are to be seen not heard!” or any other “mama” saying that a lot of us grew up hearing.

Don’t shut down your child’s creativity, their right to speak up, their need to be heard, because sometimes that can weigh on their self esteem. Now, don’t get me wrong I’m not raising disrespectful human beings, but I am raising humans who know they have the right to speak up, they have the right to my attention, and they have a right to want more from me emotionally. If that takes me putting my phone down to watch my daughter turn the same cartwheels she’s been turning for 5 years, or, stopping my phone conversation to watch “Cars” I hate that movie  with my son for the 65th time, then so be it.

Listen to your kids, yes they can be annoying, yes they want a lot of time, yes they call your name every 5 minutes, yes they want EV-ER-Y-THING, but in those genuine moments, moments you can’t get back…be present for your children. They deserve it.’

xoxoxo

LGBD “She”EO