One Hundred “No’s!”

Hey y’all!

Don’t go off on me, I’ve been MIA due to personal life. I had to take a breather until I realized that Little Girls Big Dreams IS my personal life! Thanks for being patient with me because it has been FOREVER!

Tonight (Monday) I want to talk about this list that I have been MEANING to compose for a few months now. I have been a huge fan of The Sunday Jumpstart Podcast, it is an inspirational podcast that motivates me to do whatever it is that I need to do, be it resting or working. Check it out when you get the chance it’s available on all platforms and truly helps with the start of your week.

Anyway, the host of this podcast Jessica Lauren, did a show about something called “100 no’s” and its really quite simple. Make a list of 100 people, companies, businesses, that you want to work with…and pursue them. The point of this is to 1. NEVER GIVE UP. 2. Don’t let hearing the word “no” discourage you. I felt like this episode was for me, I do not enjoy being rejected and as soon as I am I put on my tattered super woman cape and proceed to do it all or not do it at all. This is a trait that I am not proud of, but honesty is key here on the Little Girls Big Dreams Streets.

I know that God made me resilient, I also know that He is a one day God, and that if I keep pressing forward, if I keep praying and pushing, eventually my one day will come. In this case I am referring to the dream that I see for Little Girls Big Dreams, I know that this is a passion placed on my heart by God and that it is not fair to give up on it just because I feel like my support is lacking, or because I’m getting my emails ignored, or because I’m PREGNANT (yea The Canady’s are welcoming a new addition April 2019). Resting is fine but quitting is not. So if you see me in your inbox wanting to collaborate, or asking for a donation it is because God sent me, and I refuse to give up on my purpose.

I’m baaaaccckkkk!!!!!

~K~

PS. Check out http://www.norealjewelry.com for more information about Jessica Lauren and The Sunday Jumpstart Podcast.

Blessings.

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Good Parenting from a Kids Perspective: The List

Good afternoon dreamers!

As some of you may have guessed by now, I have started an organization that benefits young ladies in the arena of creativity, self worth, self love, and self motivation. I want to provide positive role models for our girls, I truly believe they need it, that the world needs it. Well, for those of you who don’t know, I am a mother as well, I have a 9 year old daughter and a 5 year old son, BOTH the loves of my life. My team/best friends and I got together and did an activity with the kids. We had our kids (roughly about 10 kids between us all…I know crazy) write down, anonymously, things that they would like us to change, work on, or just do better at. We threw these tiny pieces of paper in a hat, let the kids go outside and play while we read each off and wrote them down. The list is below:

1.) Use phone less

2.) Love me more

3.) Stop cursing

4.) Stop assuming things

5.) Spend more time with me

6.) To have more alone time

7.) Be a better listener

8.) More social

9.) Help with chores

10.) No judging

11.) Stop ignoring people

12.) Stay off the phone at home

13.) Stop accusing

14.) Stop hollering

15.) Stop fussing

16.) Lighter punishment

I honestly believe that parents have a lot to do with what kind of adult a child grows up to be. We introduce them to the world, we place our values in them, sometimes values that were passed down from our parents, we place our fears, doubts, dreams, boundaries, all into these tiny little beings and we expect them to be perfect at life. Sometimes its great to take a moment to reflect on the type of parent you might be and what your life is showing them. I don’t know which of these suggestions my kids put into the hat, and I haven’t asked because I feel like ALL of this is something that I can work on. I want to be the type of mother that pays attention to her child, what she says, what she does, how she speaks, around her child. I want my children to know that they are important in this world, but that has to start with letting them know that they are important to my life.

Most parents would say “you don’t pay bills around here, how dare you give ME a list?!?!? I’m the reason why you’re living…and blah blah blah…” Or “Children are to be seen not heard!” or any other “mama” saying that a lot of us grew up hearing.

Don’t shut down your child’s creativity, their right to speak up, their need to be heard, because sometimes that can weigh on their self esteem. Now, don’t get me wrong I’m not raising disrespectful human beings, but I am raising humans who know they have the right to speak up, they have the right to my attention, and they have a right to want more from me emotionally. If that takes me putting my phone down to watch my daughter turn the same cartwheels she’s been turning for 5 years, or, stopping my phone conversation to watch “Cars” I hate that movie  with my son for the 65th time, then so be it.

Listen to your kids, yes they can be annoying, yes they want a lot of time, yes they call your name every 5 minutes, yes they want EV-ER-Y-THING, but in those genuine moments, moments you can’t get back…be present for your children. They deserve it.’

xoxoxo

LGBD “She”EO