Equity in Education

Happy Sunday folks!

These past couple of weeks have been so enlightening, with the year coming to a close its a great time of reflection in preparation for action. I am blessed to be apart of another non profit organization here in Lees Summit called “Suburban Balance”. I have not been as active as I would like this past year but I was able to make it to an educational forum the founder hosted about the Lees Summit School District, which both of my children are apart of.  This forum was so eye opening and caused me to want to be more involved in what and how my children are being taught as well as being disciplined. 

It’s so easy as a parent to be all trusting with your kids when it comes to school. Teachers are some of the greatest people I know, selfless and patient, so why not trust that your children are learning what they need to learn throughout the school day and are getting disciplined properly when they step out of line. Its an easy thing to believe and for the most part that is whats happening, but not 100% of the time. As parents of brown children, we need to take a more in depth look into our children’s education, we need to make sure that they are being offered all of the things that their white classmates are being offered. This is not me going on a paranoia rant, the numbers were shown to us and the education gaps are pretty wide. 

Example 1: A teenage girl, who is excelling in all of her classes, has never been told about the “gifted program”. Hasn’t even been offered college preparatory classes as have her other classmates who happen to be white.

Example 2: A young man is misbehaving in class, is told constantly to sit down but will only listen to the “black counselor” (someone who looks like him) when told to do something. To this, one of the white teachers comments “He scares me.” Knowing that she feels this way, in the future that young man’s punishment will be much harsher than his white classmate just based off of this teachers fear of him. 

Both true stories told by a parent, and a counselor at a Lees Summit high school. Both examples are brown kids. I do not get into race on this blog but that is not me denying the fact that there are differences, and when I notice them I do my best within my family life to call them out as well as share with others. Parent’s this is a call to action to you, not the school district, not the teachers, not the students. Show up for your child, go to the school board meetings, keep in constant contact with your children’s teacher, counselor, and principal. Most importantly keep an open dialog between you and your child. Ask him/her how they feel about things that go on during the school day. Make yourself present wherever and whenever you can. 

I have began work on getting Little Girls Big Dreams into school districts, be it through an after school program, or a one time visit. I want our brown children to know that we advocate for them. We care for them and want to assist the teachers in any way to close the gap. Thank you Lashawn Walker of Suburban Balance for hosting such an amazing forum. I look forward to attending more like it. 

xoxo

~K~

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Collaborations

This week I’ve been blessed to understand the importance of collaborating. From my meeting with another non profit founder all the way to my conversations with other women who are mom’s with tweens. It is so important in life to have a network of supportive people that you can bounce ideas off of or when you just need encouragement. 

I’ve created a Little Girls Big Dreams Group on Facebook, it is a private group that is home to any mom who needs to vent, praise, or seek advice about their tween. Mostly though it is a network for prayer because I have no idea how I’m going to last as a mom without it. God places people in your life for a reason, none of us were meant to do this alone. With this group I’d like everyone to feel free to post, and comment, and communicate in the most respectful way possible of course.  Let’s just be there for one another *cue We Are the World*. My network of friends is awesome, some married, some single, some working, some stay at home, ALL valuable to my life in some way. Open up to your peers, everyone is not out to use what you tell them against you. Don’t be afraid to lean on others, this is what sisterhood is all about. 

~K~


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One Hundred “No’s!”

Hey y’all!

Don’t go off on me, I’ve been MIA due to personal life. I had to take a breather until I realized that Little Girls Big Dreams IS my personal life! Thanks for being patient with me because it has been FOREVER!

Tonight (Monday) I want to talk about this list that I have been MEANING to compose for a few months now. I have been a huge fan of The Sunday Jumpstart Podcast, it is an inspirational podcast that motivates me to do whatever it is that I need to do, be it resting or working. Check it out when you get the chance it’s available on all platforms and truly helps with the start of your week.

Anyway, the host of this podcast Jessica Lauren, did a show about something called “100 no’s” and its really quite simple. Make a list of 100 people, companies, businesses, that you want to work with…and pursue them. The point of this is to 1. NEVER GIVE UP. 2. Don’t let hearing the word “no” discourage you. I felt like this episode was for me, I do not enjoy being rejected and as soon as I am I put on my tattered super woman cape and proceed to do it all or not do it at all. This is a trait that I am not proud of, but honesty is key here on the Little Girls Big Dreams Streets.

I know that God made me resilient, I also know that He is a one day God, and that if I keep pressing forward, if I keep praying and pushing, eventually my one day will come. In this case I am referring to the dream that I see for Little Girls Big Dreams, I know that this is a passion placed on my heart by God and that it is not fair to give up on it just because I feel like my support is lacking, or because I’m getting my emails ignored, or because I’m PREGNANT (yea The Canady’s are welcoming a new addition April 2019). Resting is fine but quitting is not. So if you see me in your inbox wanting to collaborate, or asking for a donation it is because God sent me, and I refuse to give up on my purpose.

I’m baaaaccckkkk!!!!!

~K~

PS. Check out http://www.norealjewelry.com for more information about Jessica Lauren and The Sunday Jumpstart Podcast.

Blessings.

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Back to School Tips

School starts in exactly a month for my kiddos, and I thought I’d compile a helpful list of tips to get ready and stay successful (as a mom) for the upcoming school year.

  1. Wake up earlier than your children: It truly helps to go into my daughter and sons room fully dressed requesting that they wake up versus me yelling into their bedroom from my bed. If that means setting my alarm at 6 instead of 6:30. So be it.
  2. Prepare for the entire week: I learned this from one of my best friends, would you believe that she irons ALL of her children’s clothes for the week on Sunday night? Well, she does and each and every year I’m amazed by it. No searching for shirts, or jeans, or anything like that. It helps to know exactly what you’re wearing before morning arrives.
  3. Get to know your children’s teachers/class subjects: This will allow you to ask specific questions aside from the typical “how was your day?” or “what did you do today?”. If your kids are anything like mine they’ll have one word answers. Try something like “how was art class today? What are you working on in Mrs. Beasley’s class? What project are you looking most forward to this school year?”
  4. Go to school functions: Make space in your schedule to attend school events. This not only lets the teachers and administrative staff know that you’re involved in your child’s life, but it also lets your child know that you care enough to come up to the school without being forced to due to bad behavior.
  5. Pray: Pray with your children before school, make it a normal part of their lives. Just like us, our children run into opposition, temptation, and a host of other things on a daily basis that sometimes we have no idea that they’re dealing with. Start their day and yours with a prayer.

That’s all I have currently. If anyone has any tips that they think would be helpful feel free to leave them in the comments below. We are a community that shares, so please feel free to do so.

Until next time…

~K~

Exercise Your Faith

Happy Sunday!

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”

First off, I have to be completely transparent. I was worried. Worried about the first event for Little Girls Big Dreams. I don’t want it to fail. Simple as that, I have been in fear of failing with this vision since 2012, so much so that I didn’t move on it at all. Here it is 2017 and that same fear is starting to creep in, the only difference this time is prayer.

Each day I’m supposed to call a member of the Dream-Team and say a prayer for LGBD. Today I called my girl and in my prayer I expressed my worry, I asked God to take it from me and to keep me focused on what matters. Let Him take care of tomorrow while I stay present. Sharing that prayer of course brought on an hour long conversation full of confirmation, I am a true believer that nothing happens by mistake and some things were revealed to me within this conversation.

Here I am, with all the tools that I need right here within me. God has placed this vision in me and He is going to help me execute it. Fear is not something that I should allow to stay within me, it is a natural feeling but it is my job to remember that God is in control and there is nothing that I cannot do through Him, and that knowledge alone will alleviate any fear that I may have.

I want to challenge you to get close to God, pray to God, if you have anything you want to succeed at, anything that you are working through, times when things don’t seem to be adding up, hard decisions to make, or just thanking Him for ALL that He’s brought you through. Pray.

That’s all I have for you today, I was going to rave about my excitement about our first event, but I’ll save that one for next time. I wanted to be real and honest about the difficulties that I was having. So whatever it is you’re going through, ask God for help, get a good support system that will keep you lifted and that will remind you of your “Why?” You’ll be glad you did.

Chat with you guys Wednesday!

xoxoxo

LGDB “She”EO

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Good Parenting from a Kids Perspective: The List

Good afternoon dreamers!

As some of you may have guessed by now, I have started an organization that benefits young ladies in the arena of creativity, self worth, self love, and self motivation. I want to provide positive role models for our girls, I truly believe they need it, that the world needs it. Well, for those of you who don’t know, I am a mother as well, I have a 9 year old daughter and a 5 year old son, BOTH the loves of my life. My team/best friends and I got together and did an activity with the kids. We had our kids (roughly about 10 kids between us all…I know crazy) write down, anonymously, things that they would like us to change, work on, or just do better at. We threw these tiny pieces of paper in a hat, let the kids go outside and play while we read each off and wrote them down. The list is below:

1.) Use phone less

2.) Love me more

3.) Stop cursing

4.) Stop assuming things

5.) Spend more time with me

6.) To have more alone time

7.) Be a better listener

8.) More social

9.) Help with chores

10.) No judging

11.) Stop ignoring people

12.) Stay off the phone at home

13.) Stop accusing

14.) Stop hollering

15.) Stop fussing

16.) Lighter punishment

I honestly believe that parents have a lot to do with what kind of adult a child grows up to be. We introduce them to the world, we place our values in them, sometimes values that were passed down from our parents, we place our fears, doubts, dreams, boundaries, all into these tiny little beings and we expect them to be perfect at life. Sometimes its great to take a moment to reflect on the type of parent you might be and what your life is showing them. I don’t know which of these suggestions my kids put into the hat, and I haven’t asked because I feel like ALL of this is something that I can work on. I want to be the type of mother that pays attention to her child, what she says, what she does, how she speaks, around her child. I want my children to know that they are important in this world, but that has to start with letting them know that they are important to my life.

Most parents would say “you don’t pay bills around here, how dare you give ME a list?!?!? I’m the reason why you’re living…and blah blah blah…” Or “Children are to be seen not heard!” or any other “mama” saying that a lot of us grew up hearing.

Don’t shut down your child’s creativity, their right to speak up, their need to be heard, because sometimes that can weigh on their self esteem. Now, don’t get me wrong I’m not raising disrespectful human beings, but I am raising humans who know they have the right to speak up, they have the right to my attention, and they have a right to want more from me emotionally. If that takes me putting my phone down to watch my daughter turn the same cartwheels she’s been turning for 5 years, or, stopping my phone conversation to watch “Cars” I hate that movie  with my son for the 65th time, then so be it.

Listen to your kids, yes they can be annoying, yes they want a lot of time, yes they call your name every 5 minutes, yes they want EV-ER-Y-THING, but in those genuine moments, moments you can’t get back…be present for your children. They deserve it.’

xoxoxo

LGBD “She”EO